One of my goals for this month is to start talking to more people. I enjoy talking to people but I don’t feel comfortable starting a conversation unless I’m in a structured environment like company training or at work. But in these situations, once I start talking I usually find it hard to stop.
I can get very friendly with a person once I’ve started talking, sharing dreams and worries and asking questions freely, but I just don’t know where to begin.
It could be because I fear that the person I’m talking with won’t like me and they might walk away or cause me embarrassment in an unstructured situation but I know it would be rude and next to impossible for them to walk away in a structured one.
My eventual goal is to create lasting relationships by correctly reading people’s emotions.
And while I’m working on that I’ve made a list of ten things I want to try this month in order to start conversations with new people in unstructured situations.
- Attract attention and start with a smile
- Offer a compliment
- Gage response
- Continue / abandon conversation
- Talk about something you know
- Be relaxed
- Don’t fear rejection
- Mind your manners
- Know when to end
- Offer another time to meet
I’ll start with the first point and slowly move through each point until I reach the last one. Mastering the last point will be the goal of the course. I look forward to studying and becoming a conversational master!